Do you ever get excited that you've discovered this radical new theory that will change your life?
I used to get this all the time.
I'd come across a theory, or I'd think of something and I'd be saying to myself "OMG, my life is gonna change. All my problems are solved."
Just to pick one of the hundreds of examples - One day I thought to myself "all I have to do was think positive. Now all my problems were solved. Now that I know to think positive my life is changed. All worries are forgotten. There is not one thing I cannot do if I remember this."
I rode this high for about half a day, like most of my others. Until I realised, I was pretty much where I had been before and not feeling especially great.
Do you recognise this pattern?
The point of this little story is to help you figure out something. If you're at the stage in your personal development where you jump from theory to theory thinking that it will solve all your problems, realise that you have not solved them yet.
Now the point of this comment is not to ruin your dreams, but to bring you closer to a reality that is more congruent with life. There are a lot of positives to take from your daily epiphanies, such as the following:
-recognise that you are growing at a rapid pace to experience daily epiphanies
-recognise that your perception of reality is changing so much that what the future holds is almost unkown and very exciting.
-recognise that every ephiphany you have is bringing you close to a more congruent reality
So what can you take away from this?
If you are experiencing these epiphanies daily or weekly then you are beginning to realise that your current perception of reality is not all it used to be. To take this further, you are discovering that there is in fact a much more resourceful and congruent reality waiting for you to be discovered. Just take your time and enjoy the ride until you get there.
Friday, 30 March 2007
How to Use Logic to Achieve a Perfect Belief System
Here's an observation I have not come across yet in any self-improvement literature.
Your perfect belief system is achieved by using logic to remove as many incongruencies as possible.
I'll explain.
Most of us are born and raised with some type of social conditioning. If we take Western culture as an example we get subconsciously taught all kinds of different incongruent ways to live. For example, we are taught that men will be deeply satisfied if they nail a beautiful woman, yet men are also taught that the average man does not deserve her. We are taught to desire, but not deserve. This is such an unresourceful mindset in terms of producing a sense of self satisfaction, and it is just one example of incongruent beliefs we are raised to accept.
By taking the time to look logically at our own beliefs, or studying people with more sophisticated and resourceful belief systems, we can eventually see the faults and incongruencies in our current beliefs.
Taking my beautiful woman theory as an example, someone of more resourceful beliefs would look at that situation differently. Their mindset would probably be "it's common sense not to desire something I cannot have" or "I will learn the skills / mindsets I need in order to obtain what I desire".
This is the LOGICAL way of looking at it. Although, it will not appear so until you reach that way of looking at it (this is why you may think how you act is rational, but in fact in a year's time you will look back and realise it is not).
The same is true for other areas of growth.
It is LOGICAL to choose to have a purpose in life, and set your goals relative to that purpose, instead of achieving random goals in the hope that you will feel better after completing them.
It is LOGICAL to enjoy the present moment, rather than experience life as a means to an end.
It is LOGICAL to go out and challenge yourself to grow, rather than sitting in front of the TV.
Jesus Christ (assuming he existed) knew it was LOGICAL to spread love rather than go out and make rugs all day.
You will of course not act in these ways until you understand your incongruencies and when the logic in your entire belief system justifies acting that way. And it is for this reason that you are not going to turn into Jesus Christ overnight.
As you grow you will realise that some of the things you used to do just do not make sense any more. This is because the incongruent logic that was guiding you before was wrong. The more congruent your entire belief system becomes the more resourceful you become. Your belief system becomes more congruent when you logically look at what does not add up.
This is a really tough theory to explain, I've tried my best. To summarise, I believe the theory works as follows:
-You act in a way that is rational to your belief system.
-Your belief system is probably not congruent
-As your belief system becomes more congruent (through self study or observation or other's more congruent beliefs) you will act "more sensibly"
-Looking back at your old actions you will see that they are irrational compared to your more congruent / logical belief system
-Therefore all progress essentially results from the improvement in congruency and logic of your belief system
-The theoretical perfect belief system will be 100% congruent
Your perfect belief system is achieved by using logic to remove as many incongruencies as possible.
I'll explain.
Most of us are born and raised with some type of social conditioning. If we take Western culture as an example we get subconsciously taught all kinds of different incongruent ways to live. For example, we are taught that men will be deeply satisfied if they nail a beautiful woman, yet men are also taught that the average man does not deserve her. We are taught to desire, but not deserve. This is such an unresourceful mindset in terms of producing a sense of self satisfaction, and it is just one example of incongruent beliefs we are raised to accept.
By taking the time to look logically at our own beliefs, or studying people with more sophisticated and resourceful belief systems, we can eventually see the faults and incongruencies in our current beliefs.
Taking my beautiful woman theory as an example, someone of more resourceful beliefs would look at that situation differently. Their mindset would probably be "it's common sense not to desire something I cannot have" or "I will learn the skills / mindsets I need in order to obtain what I desire".
This is the LOGICAL way of looking at it. Although, it will not appear so until you reach that way of looking at it (this is why you may think how you act is rational, but in fact in a year's time you will look back and realise it is not).
The same is true for other areas of growth.
It is LOGICAL to choose to have a purpose in life, and set your goals relative to that purpose, instead of achieving random goals in the hope that you will feel better after completing them.
It is LOGICAL to enjoy the present moment, rather than experience life as a means to an end.
It is LOGICAL to go out and challenge yourself to grow, rather than sitting in front of the TV.
Jesus Christ (assuming he existed) knew it was LOGICAL to spread love rather than go out and make rugs all day.
You will of course not act in these ways until you understand your incongruencies and when the logic in your entire belief system justifies acting that way. And it is for this reason that you are not going to turn into Jesus Christ overnight.
As you grow you will realise that some of the things you used to do just do not make sense any more. This is because the incongruent logic that was guiding you before was wrong. The more congruent your entire belief system becomes the more resourceful you become. Your belief system becomes more congruent when you logically look at what does not add up.
This is a really tough theory to explain, I've tried my best. To summarise, I believe the theory works as follows:
-You act in a way that is rational to your belief system.
-Your belief system is probably not congruent
-As your belief system becomes more congruent (through self study or observation or other's more congruent beliefs) you will act "more sensibly"
-Looking back at your old actions you will see that they are irrational compared to your more congruent / logical belief system
-Therefore all progress essentially results from the improvement in congruency and logic of your belief system
-The theoretical perfect belief system will be 100% congruent
Thursday, 29 March 2007
Do You Like You?
Would you like you?
Step outside of your head for a second. Picture yourself in a group of people, like a social club, sports team or at work. Imagine meeting yourself. How would you feel about this person as you spoke to them?
Forget how you would like to see yourself or any fake identity you might have created for yourself. Be really honest. What do you think of this person?
Would you remember this person if you were reminded of him a month later?
Do you even care what you would think of him?
How will thinking about this change how you act in the future?
Step outside of your head for a second. Picture yourself in a group of people, like a social club, sports team or at work. Imagine meeting yourself. How would you feel about this person as you spoke to them?
Forget how you would like to see yourself or any fake identity you might have created for yourself. Be really honest. What do you think of this person?
Would you remember this person if you were reminded of him a month later?
Do you even care what you would think of him?
How will thinking about this change how you act in the future?
Wednesday, 28 March 2007
A Self-Improvement Cliché
Here's a self-improvement cliché I'd like to put a spin on.
What would you with your life if you knew you could not fail?
Think about it...
Then compare it to your current lifestyle.
How big is the gap?
To take it even further. What would you do with your life if you were already entirely fulfilled?
Does that change your answer to the first question. If it does, it probably shows that your looking for external factors to make you happy, when really if you were fulfilled nothing on the outside could make you happier than you are now. But realising this is the first step in accepting where you are now.
Have a think about exactly where that is.
Then realise exactly how far you can go.
What would you with your life if you knew you could not fail?
Think about it...
Then compare it to your current lifestyle.
How big is the gap?
To take it even further. What would you do with your life if you were already entirely fulfilled?
Does that change your answer to the first question. If it does, it probably shows that your looking for external factors to make you happy, when really if you were fulfilled nothing on the outside could make you happier than you are now. But realising this is the first step in accepting where you are now.
Have a think about exactly where that is.
Then realise exactly how far you can go.
Enjoy Every Second of Life
How can you be like those people who enjoy every second of life?
Begin to think like them. Make a conscious effort to persistently ask the question - "How would someone who loved every second of life look at the situation I am in now?"
My guess is that that if your asking this question when you are under a lot of pressure, if they were in your situation they would probably answer...
"I love the challenge of life. If it weren't for challenges like this I would probably be bored stiff. Also, knowing that I've overcome this challenge has taught me something new about me and I think I'll sleep better tonight for it. Keep em coming.
"I love life"
Begin to think like them. Make a conscious effort to persistently ask the question - "How would someone who loved every second of life look at the situation I am in now?"
My guess is that that if your asking this question when you are under a lot of pressure, if they were in your situation they would probably answer...
"I love the challenge of life. If it weren't for challenges like this I would probably be bored stiff. Also, knowing that I've overcome this challenge has taught me something new about me and I think I'll sleep better tonight for it. Keep em coming.
"I love life"
The Beginning
Im gonna try and keep this short and sweet like I hope all my posts will be.
The aim of this blog is to help you guys improve the quality of your lives.
I hope to do this by giving you guys new perspectives on standard and commonly accepted ways of looking at things.
I believe the key difference in the quality of people's lives is almost entirely determined by how they run their brain. Therefore my aim is to help you change for the better and I hope that I too can grow at the same time.
Wish me luck
The aim of this blog is to help you guys improve the quality of your lives.
I hope to do this by giving you guys new perspectives on standard and commonly accepted ways of looking at things.
I believe the key difference in the quality of people's lives is almost entirely determined by how they run their brain. Therefore my aim is to help you change for the better and I hope that I too can grow at the same time.
Wish me luck
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