When Should We Be Negative?

Looking at my last post, I realised that it was pretty negative.

Does negativity have a place in a truly fulfilled life?

I would say it depends on what type of negativity.

Negativity to me has its place when things really are bad and I have to make a change.

Absolute refusal to look at yourself in a negative light can SOMETIMES lead to denial and not seeing your life as it truly is.

So how can we apply negative motivation without becoming life haters?

If, for example you are in serious debt, you would probably be lieing to yourself if you said that your finances were in great shape and you loved your current situation.

Once you accept that you are in debt (negative) you can then begin to look at things positively and finding tools to overcome the problem. For example, being in debt is great because

-It provides a massive incentive to go out and earn more money.
-You have nothing more to lose
-There is no expectation to succeed
-Most of the world's self-made millionaires and billionaires came from very impoverished backgrounds and it is this situation that drove them to massive success
-Complete financial recovery has been done before.

So when in a fulfilled life does negativity have a place?

When you accept something in your life is not how you want it to be, and you accept that you want to change it. This is the initial driving force for change.

Negativity is not acceptable when it does not drive you to act and make a change. An example of negativity being used incorrectly would be asking yourself why you are bad at making money and beating yourself up over it.

If used correctly you would hopefully be asking yourself how you could improve your ability to make money.

To put the above into a formula I would say.

1. Look at your situation as TRUTHFULLY as possible, such as in my article on why the average life sucks
2. Use the honest and potentially painful truth as a motivational tool
3. Reframe your current potentially negative situation and view the potentially useful aspects of it (e.g. ask "how would I overcome this?" or "how can I use this?" questions)
4. Use these useful aspects of your present situation and your resourcefulness to propel yourself towards your goals